Now I know I said I was avoiding the news a couple of weeks back, and I have been…mostly. Habits die hard though and I ended up reading a post about Lena Dunham in the Daily Mail (ugh I know, shoot me right? After reading the article I was left feeling disappointed in the way women treat other women.
Lena is an amazing talent I have only recently discovered through the HBO show Girls. Have you watched Girls yet? The New York based show is a drama/comedy mainly centred around four girls in their twenties, each remarkably different and unique. When I first watched it on Netflix I was a bit unsure if I liked it or not, but there was something calling me back time and time again and before I knew it I was hooked. Was it the sex, the relationships, the laughter, the shocks? No, it was how real it was.
Lena is the writer of the show (wow) and she plays the central character, Hannah. Lena isn’t your typical American actress, Lena is a normal human being and Hannah isn’t your expected star of a show either. She has some meat on her like all of us real women do and that has caused a variety of reactions in the States as you can imagine. For me, the fact that Hannah is so believable in her looks and in her personality is what sold the show to me. Hannah/Lena gave me the confidence to be myself and not to hide my body from the man I love. Confidence is attractive.
So to get back on track, there I was this morning reading about Lena’s book signing for her new book ‘Not that Kind of Girl’. She was wearing what I would call a typical Hannah ensemble, and while I wouldn’t wear it myself ( it’s not really my cup of tea) I thought it was right on her. My eyes then took me to the comments where I read nothing but hate and negativity all because of her outfit. They didn’t care that she is one of the most exciting female writers of these times. I mean come on, are we all so pathetic to only care about the work of an artist if they look and dress like a supermodel?
This kind of stuff happens all the time. Style isn’t what’s in fashion and it doesn’t have rules. I believe as women we have the right to wear whatever we please, whatever makes us smile. I’m not a feminist either before anyone thinks any different, I just like the world to be fair and equal.
Women are the first to slag off each other especially when it comes to looks and fashion and that’s just wrong. We should be our biggest supporters but we’re not. We demean each other through snide comments, whispering and gossiping and it’s something that needs to stop.
Next time you find yourself questioning another woman on looks or personal taste just take a minute to think. Try not to judge, try to respect the style of others even if it’s not the same as yours. And as a woman do yourself a favour and be who you want to be, not what society makes you feel you should be.
P.S. Lena, you inspire me and I thank you for that and you own your own style, for that I love you more.