Grateful Friday – Ups and Downs
It’s been a week of highs and lows.
A family friend passed away on Sunday. She was in her forties, a mother of five, her youngest being only six. We were neighbours when I was growing up, I would babysit her kids when I was ten (that wouldn’t happen these days) and she once busted a party of mine that I threw when my parents went out-of-town. In recent years she has been like an Aunty to me. Helping me when I had parenting questions as my own mum died when I was just 18. I now hope to be there for her children like she was for me.
The news of Rik Mayall reached me within a couple of hours of learning about our friend. The Young Ones and Bottom have entertained me for years. Here’s a clip of the Gas Man episode that always had me in pieces and picked me up on days that I found it hard to smile. It’s strange when famous people die. We never knew them, we never met them, yet they have our emotions and we ‘love’ them to a certain degree. He was a legend, another taken too soon.
On the upside my daughter had a birthday on Tuesday, a day of pure celebration and fun. A reminder that life goes on and that the time we share together is the most precious thing in this world. My daughter is now 14 and I am excited for what’s to come for her. As a mother it’s hard not to be scared (especially when you’re naturally anxious) but more than anything I want her to find the fun in life, to take risks and aim for her dreams. My job is to encourage and support her along the way, not to hold her back.
Reflecting on the week gone by my Grateful Friday list is as follows:
- Family is not defined by blood. Family are the people you can turn to and support in return. As I am adopted this is something I will certainly be grateful for until my dying day.
- Being a mum (by blood or not) is a gift. Raising an intelligent, beautiful and funny young woman gives me eternal joy.
- Laughing is a medicine and sometimes a cure. I have always turned to comedy as a way to carry me through hard times. When I am panicking I use comedy to help take my mind off the irrational thoughts. It guides me through the storm and helps me come out on the other side.
- Each day is a true blessing. Each year we gain is an honour and birthdays need to be celebrated not dreaded.
Grateful Friday wasn’t supposed to so serious, but after the week we’ve had it’s hard not to focus on the truly valuable things in life. Normal service will resume next week!